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Counselling & Psychotherapy

Who might benefit from
counselling / psychotherapy?

Many different people can benefit from the experience of counselling / psychotherapy. Listed below are examples of
why people might choose to access a professional
counselling / psychotherapy service.

  • Do you feel dissatisfied with life in general or an aspect of your
    life in particular?
  • Perhaps you have low self-esteem and feel that you lack in
  • Maybe you wonder why your relationships with others often leave
    you feeling dissatisfied?
  • Do you often feel stressed with your work or home situation?
  • Maybe you have family issues that you would like to explore?
  • Perhaps you experience a level of anxiety that causes you
    distress and stops you from doing the things that you
    would like to?
  • Are you some-one who tells yourself that you should be happy
    and then feel guilty because actually you often feel low
    and unmotivated?
  • Perhaps there has been a change in your life and you have
    experienced separation and / or loss?
  • Do you feel stuck?
  • Do you feel confused and unsure of what you would like to do
    with your life?
  • Perhaps you behave in ways that you don’t understand and you
    would like to understand why you do what you do?
  • Maybe aspects of your behaviour are experienced as destructive
    to yourself and / or others?
  • Perhaps you feel that you do not know who you are and you
    would really like the opportunity to discover yourself in a safe
    and accepting environment?

In my experience, people come with a range of issues and the list above is by no means an exhaustive one. If you would like to discuss the possibility of counselling / psychotherapy or you would like me to answer any questions that you may have, then please feel free to contact me.

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What are the potential benefits of
counselling / psychotherapy?

Working with a counsellor / psychotherapist in a safe and nurturing environment can help you to appreciate and value yourself by gaining a greater awareness and understanding of yourself and your own particular set of circumstances.

I think it is important to acknowledge that counselling /
psychotherapy is not a miracle cure and it does not work for
everyone. However, what counselling / psychotherapy can do
is to offer you the time and space to be listened to, heard and
understood with the belief that a fuller and deeper
understanding of yourself will enable you to have a more
compassionate relationship with yourself.

Counselling / psychotherapy is not about advice-giving, but it is about empowering you as the client to make more informed choices and to explore ways of being in the world in which a greater degree of satisfaction is possible both in terms of your relationship with yourself and your relationships with other people.

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Couples Counselling

All relationships go through difficult times. Couples counselling provides a safe and confidential environment in which each person is given time and space to share their experience and to be heard without judgment or blame.

There may be an isolated incident which is causing a level of distress to one or both of you in your relationship and which you are finding difficult to manage on your own. It may be that you no longer experience your relationship as a satisfying one and would like to explore if there is any possibility of change, or perhaps you find that you cannot talk with one another for more than five minutess without it becoming a shouting match.

I see couple's counselling as essentially a process in which I endeavour to support couples in developing and sustaining a more secure emotional bond with one another. Experiencing a more secure emotional bond can actively help to increase a deeper understanding of one another, which can then often help to create more balance and harmony within the relationship.

I am a registered Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist with the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT). Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a structured approach to couples therapy and was formulated in the early 1980's by Dr Sue Johnson and Dr Les Greenberg. EFT has been applied to many different kinds of problems and populations and has been validated by over 25 years of empirical research. More information on EFT can be found at www.iceeft.com

Whatever your reason for exploring the possibility of Couple’s Counselling, please feel free to contact me and I will be happy to answer any questions you may have.

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